I AM WHO I AM... STRAIGHT OR CURLY

It can sometimes be a long process when one decides to return to their natural hair texture. And sometimes it is a big chop, they are ready to do it. In any way you do it, it becomes a journey. Why is this journey a process one may ask?  Sometimes one has not been educated on how to care for it or it just takes getting used to the new look or way of doing your hair. Then the question becomes, why is it a process to be what and who you are? Being relaxed or straitening your hair, do you become a different person when you decide to have your hair return to its natural texture? Some people will argue that a person has not accepted themselves if they relax or straighten. They may take it to the extreme that they are a sell-out and that they don’t embrace their culture. What is such the big deal about hair that it creates hair Nazi’s? These hair Nazi’s find everything wrong with how a black woman wears their hair. They criticize saying they are not natural enough, if you color your hair, straighten it on occasion and etc.. Why can’t I just love who I am and be perfectly fine with wearing my hair any kind of the way I feel like it? 

When a black person returns back to their natural texture who do they become? It sometimes feels like you are put into this group that necessarily is not you. You are assumed to be this black power person, or this poet or an artsy kind of girl…you see where I am going with this? People assume that you are someone other than you. Regardless of how I decide to wear my hair, it does not take away or add to the person I am, I am who I am.

Hair is hair, and sometimes it seems to be made a big deal out of. The whole movement or nonmovement has caused people to be very obsessed with hair.  But, it is just hair…right?

The struggle is acknowledged. Yes, black women have been through hell and back in regards to people realizing our beauty. In order to be accepted we had to blend in, and with this blending in we somehow lost who we were/are, and this was passed on from generation to generation. And now it is the present day where that daughter may not think anything of it by straightening their hair or relaxing it. They do it because that is what was taught to them. So, it’s a lack of knowledge, not because they hate themselves. To criticize this person would be foolish, one must educate first.  

I wish everyone would become educated in black hair care. American black people have so much mixed in us, hardly any of us are 100% black. This mixing causes us to have so much difference in our hair texture. Some may have very loose curls, some may have tight or even kinky and some may have a mixture of all. This is our hair. Due to this, we have never been properly taught on how to care for it. From day one we pressed and flat ironed. We thought this was how it was supposed to be. Once we got of age we relaxed. This was the norm. We assume that our hair doesn’t grow long, it is going to grow to a certain length and stop, and if it is long we assume a person is of the multi-culture race. False, very false! Everyone’s hair can and will grow long but like with anything, one must care for it. So education is key, and with the breakthrough in the natural hair care, we are finally learning ourselves on how to care for our hair, and our hair is the bomb!  

Why did I return to my natural texture? I should first state that I did not have a relaxer, I straightened, which is like a relaxer cause it kills your curls if the proper steps are not taken.There are many reasons; I got tired of it being straight and limp looking, I got tired of exercising and only being able to wear it in a ponytail through the week, but the main reason is that I loved my daughter's virgin hair, and I wanted mine to be just like that. But when I wore my hair straight, you best to believe that I loved it, I took care of it, I was always into the maintenance of hair.  Once I returned to my natural state did I become this different person? No! I am still me who wears my hair different now. I embrace me at whatever point in life I am at. That is the beauty of life, you can constantly grow and learn and become better. I am not the same person I was in high school, but I loved that person, and now I am a better version of that person, but not because of something as superficial as hair. It is because of my journey, the lessons learned, the mistakes and triumphs and my walk with my GOD. My life is not hair; my hair just goes along for the ride! The best thing one can do for themselves is to embrace who they are naturally (the inner you), be naturally you and be good at it, because no one can be you but you!

XOXO


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